I'm still experiencing similar problems. I'm not certain what parameter you are referring to when you say 'ehost'. Otherwise, I did want to clarify a couple of things. I have tried several combinations, each one fails in various ways. So ...
(1) What is the exact syntax when calling bdr_init_copy from new nodes when your database name is not 'postgres' and your user name is not 'postgres'. Please note if you supply local or remote host/port in the command.
Use a connection string to identify the remote and the local ends. e.g.: