I'm looking at my pg_stat_activity and trying to figure out what is causing some of these processes. I'm using this query:
SELECT pid, wait_event, state_change, backend_start, xact_start, query_start, state_change - query_start, query from pg_stat_activity where datname= 'my_database' and state in ('idle', 'idle in transaction', 'idle in transaction (aborted)', 'disabled');
Including the "state" field should clear things up considerably.
Specifically, you are including multiple states but then don't look at which one is actually assigned. You should be able to reason about a connection mainly from its state and not consider the query at all - it is a debugging aid only.
