Re: Let's Do the CoC Right - Mailing list pgsql-general

Hi David !
I totally share your toughts. I was following the whole CoC discussion,
and as a transgender woman found myself with a lot of sadness. Because
what happened in that discussion, happens in some other projects that I
liked technically and used for a long time.

It's sad, because all those who participated in the discussion were
people that are not exposed to the experiences we live (and by that, I
mean everyone not fitting in the hegemony of that white guy in the IT
industry), and by consequence they don't have sensibility/empathy to
notice or understand what's out of place ... or these people are totally
limited in how much of that sensibility/empathy can get. And that's the
foundation on which the CoC is being written. I saw the CoC go down,
down, and down in content and quality, not taking stances for nothing
and falling into generalizations.

I truly hope that open source communities can move forward on the social
aspect (the community), so more people can feel ok/safe to come by and
put hands to the work without feeling exposed to violent situations.
And, about some comments/signatures I saw floating around the CoC
discussion, I will just say that this is not being about weak, pitiful,
etc ... sometimes, you just get tired or you just cant have your armor
all day on, all week on, all month on, all year on ... all life on, and
sometimes you prefer to avoid these situations, and do something else in
a safer enviroment, so you have a moment when you can take the damn
armor off and simply worrying about having fun.

This is pretty much my personal opinion.

Hugs ~

P.S → even now, I'm kinda terrified of a shitstorm in my first mail to
the mailing list ... but definitely this spark of hope made me come
forward and say something, dunno.

On 01/22/2016 04:00 AM, Rajeev Bhatta wrote:
> On Friday 22 January 2016 10:55 AM, David E. Wheeler wrote:
>> Fellow PostgreSQLers,
>>
>> I can’t help that there are a whole lot of white guys working on this
>> document, with very little feedback from the people who it’s likely
>> to benefit (only exception I spotted in a quick scan was Regina;
>> sorry if I missed you). I suspect that most of you, like me, have
>> never been the target of the kinds os behaviors we want to forbid.
>> Certainly not to the level of many women, transgendered, and people
>> of color I know of personally, in this community and others, who
>> have. If those people are not speaking up here, I suspect it’s
>> because they don’t expect to be heard. A bunch of white guys who run
>> the project have decided what it’s gonna be, and mostly cut things
>> out since these threads started.
>>
>> But a *whole* lot of thought has gone into the creation of CoCs by
>> the people who need them, and those who care about them. They have
>> considered what sorts of things should be covered, what topics
>> specifically addressed, and how to word them so as to enable the most
>> people possible to feel safe, and to appropriately address issues
>> when they inevitably arise, so that people continue to feel safe.
>>
>> So I’d like to propose that we not try to do this ourselves. Instead,
>> I propose that we take advantage of the ton of thought others have
>> already put into this, and simply:
>>
>> * Follow the example of many other successful communities (Swift,
>> Mono, Rails, and 10,000 others) and adopt the open-source Contributor
>> Covenant, unmodified.
>>
>>    http://contributor-covenant.org
>>
>> * Put this document in the root directory of the project as
>> CODE_OF_CONDUCT.md, so that anyone who wants to contribute can. It
>> should also be listed on the main web site and referenced from
>> appropriate places (such as the mail lists pages).
>>
>> * Spell out a policy and procedure for enforcement and include it as
>> a separate document, again in the Git rep and on the site. The
>> reporting address should be included in the Covenant. The Covenant
>> web site has links to a number of existing guides we ought to crib from.
>>
>> Best,
>>
>> David
>>
> Hi David, whatever be the race of the select few who built the CoC,
> the categorization of them as white is inappropriate.. The CoC is
> meant to be allowing free communication across all members of the
> community irrespective of their color, race, sexuality, gender,
> nationality or for that matter whatever their personal viewpoint is.
>
> Additionally the CoC emails were sent to the entire group so it was
> open for all. I did not read the remainder of the email as classifying
> someone by anything is inappropriate.
>
> Thanks
>
> Regards
> Rajeev
>
>